Tamar Braxton is flaunting her post-baby body in the November issue of Flaunt magazine, and talks whether or not she’ll have more kids, her Billboard #1 hit “Love & War” album, being bullied as a child, and keeping a balanced lifestyle.
The R&B singer, who performed at this year’s Soul Train Awards show in Las Vegas, also chatted about being “honest” on her reality show, teaching her son Logan about reality TV, and what’s next for her.
Here’s what she told the magazine:
On whether or not she’ll have more kids:
“Well, I’m not having any kids in the future.”
“God no. I hated being pregnant. I felt like Invasion of the Body Snatchers. It’s beautiful and it’s great just like everyone says, but there’s another side to it. My back. My feet. My skin went absolutely nuts. I had the itchies the whole day. Imagine scratching all day and you can never get to the itch.”
On what people told her about being pregnant:
Yes. People lie to you. I was one hundred percent open and honest on Tamar and Vince because I was upset. I didn’t instantly connect with my baby, and no one told me this was common. I was jealous because Vince and the baby connected instantly. It’s not that I didn’t love him; it’s not that I didn’t want to connect with him. I was upset because I didn’t instantly connect with him. I didn’t cry when I first saw him. I was confused. I was like, “What do I do now?”
On the inspiration behind her “Love & War” album:
The first season of Tamar and Vince [Vince and I] went through a lot in our relationship. We call ourselves Velcro because from the moment we decided we were going to be together, we’ve been together every single day. When Vince got sick, our relationship changed. We started going through a lot of relationship problems and communication problems. When I was writing “Love and War,” it wasn’t a negative space, but it was an honest space. This was the first time I had experienced not just love but passion. There’s a difference between love and passion, and I didn’t know that.
On why she thinks she was bullied as a child:
Are you kidding me? I walked different, I had a different attitude, and I was picked on because I wasn’t like everybody else. You have to accept that about yourself. I think especially for women it’s important because it’s so hard for us. If we just accept ourselves for who we are, it’s so much more attractive and then other people notice. Like, “Her skin is so bad but she doesn’t give a hot fuck!” Then they stop looking at you!
On keeping a balanced lifestyle that’s based solidly upon faith:
Yes. Both of my parents at one time were pastors of their own churches and I learned a lot from that but not until I was an adult did I understand it and know for myself. That’s what changed things for me. That’s where accepting myself comes in. There’s no way I can fake the funk. If you do it, how long can you do it for? And when you go home, how miserable are you at night? I sleep at night. I’m tired.
On being honest on her show:
Sometimes I wish it did. I’m a lot better because I am working on my filter, but before I had absolutely none. I was just one hundred percent raw and I found that wasn’t the best thing for me because I really do love my family, and I would say things thinking I was helping, and I was hurting their feelings. I can watch myself and learn from my mistakes. Then I’m on the phone with my sisters all day trying to apologize and they don’t want to hear it.
On having a strong personality:
The upside is that people can always go to you for the truth, right? The downside to that is that sometimes it can come off as offensive, like I said. Or people can take things the wrong way, or people just get plain old tired of me being honest. It can get irritating sometimes because of the way it comes off.
On her thoughts about love and passion:
Passion is a lot like lust, except it’s real. Passion is real because the other person feels the same way about you. It’s not one-sided. When you argue, it’s passionate, because you want to get your point across but you also want the other person to understand you, so you can get back to the love. Nobody told me about that either. I had to learn that for myself.
On what’s next for Tamar:
We just got picked up for The Braxtons season four. I’m really excited about that. Hopefully The Real gets picked up. I go on tour tomorrow with John Legend. I’m obsessed with him, and he didn’t know it until I started giving interviews. He asked for me even before I had my album out, and that was really special to me, because I respect him so much.
Be sure to read more over at Flaunt Mag HERE.
Plus, Tamar’s Christmas album, “Winter Loversland” hit stores today (Nov. 11th) and features her latest release, “She Can Have You.”
Here’s the complete tracklist:
01. Sleigh Ride
02. Santa Baby
03. Santa Claus is Coming to Town
04. No Gift
05. Away In a Manger / Little Drummer Boy
06. Merry Christmas Darling
07. The Chipmunk Song (Christmas Don’t Be Late)
08. She Can Have You
09. Silent Night
10. Have Yourself a Merry Little Christmas